Mother’s Day to many means running out and buying some flowers or plant or maybe a piece of jewelry and a card and giving it to a women you call Mother or Mom. My mother was always and still is Mom and you would never refer to her as Mother. Funny because that is what she called her own mother, Mother. Her grandchildren referred to her as Honey with great affection, that is a whole different story. Mom was a women I admired tremendously and so did many others. She was always giving of herself even when the person she was trying to help didn’t or couldn’t see why. Mom would work quietly never looking for acknowledgment or rewards for her efforts. She worked with a hospital as a pastoral aid when she had the time. Mostly she took care of my family with grace and courage and a huge amount of love. She handled many heartaches some inflicted on her and some on the many people she cared for yet she never stopped seeing and searching for love and compassion and always found ways to forgive where many would not. Qualities I try everyday to blend into my life. She seemed able to handle life’s challenges with undeniable strength and it is her approach to life I try to support in my life.
I find my life blessed. I am adopted and this wonderful exceptional woman made my life an exciting adventure. Placed in my life as my hero , mentor, confidant, best friend, spiritual teacher, kindred spirit and not the least of it all Mom was a remarkable gift. Mother’s Day had been a hard holiday for me yet this year I feel at ease with her passing. It has been 6 years since she passed in my arms and we had to say until later. I feel her standing next to me her energy ever-present and when I am about to give up on myself or a situation I can still hear her voice say ‘it will be alright everything will work out’. Both my parents taught me to never give up on what truly matters, the person inside. It is what connects us all to everything here and everything beyond.
I wonder what Mom would say about the way things are today. I know she would look for the good and not dwell on the seemingly impossible. I know she would say with conviction that everything is happening as it should and the best anyone can do is be true to themselves. This takes work and commitment and a promise to always take the road traveled by the few. Life takes hard work and my Mom gave me the tools and knowledge I need to live the best life I can the way I see fit. Mom always felt a little twinge when she thought about the end was closer than she wanted and she would discuss who would remember her and did she leave a mark in the world. I think she did and certainly with me.
I write this not to say my Mom was a great lady because she was but to say every one of us has someone in our lives that makes us see our true selves. Helps cultivate and nurture you so you become an awesome spectacular person. Or maybe you can not see anyone at the moment so you become the person someone else needs. This very special lady showed me time and again it is kindness, gratitude, compassion, love, strength, faith, belief, beauty in nature, and being receptive to the good in the world that brings anyone peace. Find the things that support these qualities and keep them close to you and the world will prosper.
I send everyone my blessings and may peace enter your world today.